A
father’s love-or the lack of it - contributes as much to the development
of a child’s personality and behaviour as the love of a mother,
according to researchers. In some respects, they add, a father’s love is
even more influential.
"Probably the most important
and most surprising finding of all is that the importance of mother’s
love seems to drop out altogether in some of the analyses we have
done", said study co-author Dr Ronald P Rohner of the University of
Connecticut. "It’s pretty remarkable."
Rohner and his colleague, Robert A
Veneziano reviewed almost 100 US and European studies investigating the
effects of parenting on the psychology and behaviour of children as they
grew older. The earliest study was conducted in 1949, and the most recent
was completed in 2001.
In the current issue of the Review
of General Psychology, the researchers report that the degree of
acceptance or rejection a child receives - and perceives - from his or her
father appears to affect his or her development as deeply as the presence
or absence of a mother’s love.
Rohner and Veneziano noted that the
withholding of love by either the mother or the father is equally
connected to a child’s lack of self-esteem, emotional instability,
withdrawal, depression and anxiety. And the risk of developing problems
with aggression, drug and alcohol abuse and delinquency was equally
related to a child’s rejection or acceptance by either parent.
The investigators also found that
having the love and nurturing of either parent has an equality positive
effect on a child’s happiness, well-being and social and academic
success from early childhood through young adulthood.
The team further found that in
certain instances, the love of a father plays an even more important role
than that of the mother. Many studies found a father’s love to be the
sole determining factor when it came to a child’s problems with
personality, conduct, delinquency or substance abuse. They said future
research is needed to explain this observation.
Rohner said that he doesn’t want
to suggest that a mother’s love is less important than the love of a
father. Instead, he said, his research reveals an American cultural bias
to overemphasise the role the mother plays in raising her children, at the
expense of understanding and appreciating the equally crucial role of the
father.
"In certain aspects, father’s
love seems to have a particularly strong influence", he said.
"So it seems clear that we have to move away from mother-bashing,
assuming somehow that the mother is completely at fault for all the
problems of her kids...... And, hopefully, this information will encourage
fathers all over the country to become more involved with their kids"
(Courtesy: The Times of India, Delhi)